One of my friends shared with me something so powerful about being a parent, that I think of it quite often. I had never heard of this before, even tho it now seems so obvious, yet I don't think many parents think this way (or maybe they do, and I just don't know it?).
I strongly feel if all parents lived this way / felt this way / did this, that kids would grow up "better" and have better relationships in their lives.
We all realize that the way we grow up affects us as adults. I'm starting to see that a lot more lately, so these words he spoke last year have been in my mind even more.
My friend has a daughter and a son.
What my friend told me was basically, he treats his wife in such a way that he wants his son to "see" and understand how he should treat a woman. And he wants his daughter to "see" and understand how a woman should be treated by a man.
I truly believe the world would be a different place if all parents felt this way and acted this way.
I don't think this crossed the mind of my parents. Or many of my friends' parents.
Maybe I'm naive and a lot of parents already think this way, but I think it's a truly beautiful concept. Why aren't we all talking about it??
I imagine he hardly ever raises his voice at his wife in front of the kids, shows affection to her, and SHOWS his kids he loves his wife with daily things like communicating well, doing things together, holding hands, etc.
My Dad told me once how he used to witness his Dad in the kitchen hugging his Mom from behind so lovingly. I think that's why he was so affectionate towards my Mom and I and then his new wife - because he saw all that as a child.
Profound way of thinking to be a great example and helpful for the future of your children imo.
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