Tony Robbins Quotes - Good Ones

Some thoughts stuff from Tony Robbins (I really loves these btw):

Sometimes, not getting what you want can be the most valuable experience of your entire life. ‪

Remember, whatever you consistently think about and focus upon, you move toward.

And most important:

Every moment you live in the past is a moment you waste in the present.

Wish I Was Stronger

Last night I was at a seminar and two of the speakers talked about losing a family member.

When the seminar concluded, everyone was walking out and the speakers were standing near the door.  I wanted SO badly to thank the two for sharing their stories, and for being brave to talk in front of the group about their loss, but I could NOT speak without bawling, so I didn't say anything to them.

I was so mad at myself all the drive home (as I cried), wishing I had more strength to say even the little words from my mouth to them, "thank you."

But, I knew I would start bawling.  I was already crying from the THOUGHT of saying something to them.  Yes, I was in line to walk out with tears rolling down my cheeks.

I wish I wasn't so scared to cry in front of strangers.

I think they would have loved to be thanked, and even to know someone understands their loss.

I slammed my fist on the steering wheel, crying, so upset with myself.  I wanted so badly to turn around, even!

I remember back in about 1985 or so, when I was a teenager, my Grandmother passed away.  At her funeral, we were all in the church and the pastor asked us, if we wished, to stand up and say something about her.

I tried SO hard to stand up and speak.  I wanted to!!  But I could not.  :(  I knew I would only bawl.  I knew I would not be able to get my words out without crying.  My heart was hurting so badly.  My chest was sore, my throat was dry, and tears were flowing.  And I could not speak.  I just sat there bawling.

I remember so vividly my Dad standing up at one point and he spoke about her.  As I look back, I see now JUST HOW DIFFICULT that had to of been for him.  He held back his tears, talked so amazingly about his Mom, and honored her so wonderfully.  But I didn't realize of course at the time just how brave that was of him.  It was his Mom.  He loved her.  It was painful.  She was gone.  :(

When the casket was moved to the car, I walked up to it and rested my hand on it and spoke to her softly and cried.  I walked away to my parents, and then raced back up to it to touch it again and say goodbye.

However, I wish I could control my tears enough to speak UP more.  Speak out through my tears, anyway!

I think last night the speakers would have loved to have heard that they were appreciated and how I could relate with their losses.  And I know my Grandma Bailey's friends and family would have loved to have heard my words about my loving Grandmother.

Worry Quotes

Worrying about the unknowns, the fear of the unknowns is a BEAST.  Mostly, worrying about things that may or may not occur in the future can be paralyzing.  And consume you.  And make you not want to live fully in the present because you are worrying about something that may or may NOT happen/occur.

Death, and Dates

I wanted to share something I learned the hard way.

My Mom's sister, my Aunt Gail, was born on Feb 6th.  She passed away in January 2011.

My Mom passed away August 19th, 2011.  Her birthday is August 8th.

So, I wouldn't experience my Mom's "death date" until after her "birthday date" the following year.

I know this is getting confusing... sorry.

I called my Uncle Ray on my Aunt Gail's birthday on Feb 6th, 2012.  To let him know I was thinking about him, and I was remembering his wife/my Aunt on her birthday.

He tells me that her birthday was "easy" compared to the day she passed away in January.  And I had NOT called him on that day.  :(

I didn't know.

I had no idea that "death dates" were tougher than "birthday dates," after recent passings.

I would find this out 6 months later when my mom's birthday was still mentioned from me, but it was the day she passed away (her "death date") that tore my heart out. 

Now I pay more attention when my friends mention "death dates" for their parents (or others) and I try to remember them.  It's a tough day.  Tougher than many realize.

Just a little advice, from little me.

5 Regrets Of The Dying

I found yet another article I wanted to share.  This one more profound than most of the others I have shared on my blog.

5 Regrets Of The Dying:   http://www.lifebuzz.com/5-regrets/

Here is a short recap, which I like to do just in case in years to come the link fails:
  

1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me. (This was the most common regret of all. When people realize that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled.)
2. I wish I hadn’t worked so hard (missed out on their children's youth or partner's companionship).
3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.
4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends. (Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying.”)
5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.  (Many did not realize until the end that happiness is a choice.)

For me, Number 5 hits home with me most.