There is a certain "freedom" to NOT getting even with someone, even after they hurt you.
Obviously, I'm talking about hurt from emotions or words.
As an example, I have seen a few times where a guy makes fun of a girls' weight ONLY because she said something about his weight in the past. Whether a year went by or just an hour, they are actually "satisfied" and gloat when they get a dig in or were able to be mean back about their weight.
What I find MORE refreshing and a HUGE sign of maturity (and learning) is when a person is hurt or gets hurt and they don't retaliate with the same hurtfulness.
When we hurt someone, most of the time it's not even intentional. Most of the time it's actually the way someone takes something. A tone, or misunderstanding, or a miscommunication. But hardly ever intentional. So, it makes matters worse when that hurt person "gets you back" by being mean in the same vain.
This quote resonates so much with me about this topic. Instead of being mean and hurting someone in return, try to understand their situation instead. Don't retaliate.
When I meet people who try to "get even" or hurt others back, it's time to leave that situation and their negativity.
Mature, thoughtful, positive, smart people just don't do that and they KNOW it's not right. They know it's not nice. Instead, we realize that still being considerate even after we are hurt shows the true character of the person we are. I strongly feel that if a person feels GOOD and even gloats about "getting even" or hurting someone in return, shows a devilish side to them. And I don't really want to hang out with people like that.
I admit that knowing about this comes with age and experience. Because as a child it might have felt "good" to get someone back. But as we get older, it's not even possible from a "decent" person to get even or hurt someone back if they hurt us. Not even in our being. Because we know it's not the right thing to do back to someone else.
Yes, we get hurt. Yes, sometimes very deeply. But retaliation is not the answer. That's just simply a sign of immaturity; not yet learning it's really not proper to do. imho.
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