5 Things Real-Life Psychopaths Do (Article)

Hey look, I found my ex-boyfriend described perfectly!

5 Things Real-Life Psychopaths Do:  ARTICLE LINK HERE.

Excerpts:

1.  They're extremely charming.
2.  They don't experience any remorse.
3.  They're really arrogant.
4.  They take big risks.
5.  They're master manipulators.

Wowser...

Being Used as an Example

If you keep up with my blog then you know this already but if not, I lost my Dad (step Dad) in 2007, my beloved Mom in 2011, and my Dad (biological) in 2015.

I have no siblings, no kids, no roommate even.  So, I'm more alone than most people.

So when I hear people sad and upset about losing their parent(s), boy can I relate and completely understand.

The holidays are the toughest.  Everyone else has family around.  I have no one.

But what bothers me, and this may not be fair but it does, is when people get sad and try to compare their lives with mine.  Many people still have their kids alive.  Or someone will compare their lonely life to mine, and yet their parents are still alive.

PLEASE DON'T DO THAT.

No one, unless you are in my shoes, know all that I've been through, and been through alone.  Friends can only do so much (and even then you can't depend on them a lot).  I have learned I can only depend on two people:  myself and God.

So a friend of mine was telling me story about her ex husband and I said (probably rudely), "that's nothing, try being alone like I am without any relatives."

And she quipped, "yep, I used you as an example."

Wait, what?

And believe it or not, I was happy!  OMGosh I was SO happy!  Sure, I'm a SAD example (lol), but one that can be shared with others that you have at least SOME relatives in your life. "Look at this chick all alone and shit and miserable.  Realize how blessed you are to still have your kids." (or a sibling or parents alive.)

If my sad life can help others, wow, that would be great!  I've already thought that the things I have been through are really to help others, so to be used as an extreme example is super cool to me.  Might seem twisted, but it's not.  Not at all.

Grief Quote

After the passing of my Mom, things kept getting worse.  Not just her death, which the grief paralyzed me for almost 2 years straight, but other things in my life added on to to my depression.  Things so so much worse when you are already grieving badly.

So when I read this today, it really resonated with me:

“For me suffering is staying alive.”

I don't have much purpose anymore in my life.  My Mom was my last real purpose to live for.  And she passed in August 2011.

Get a Colonoscopy - It's Not Bad, Actually Good

I got a colonoscopy back in June of 2015.

My advice to all you scardy cats is:  It's not bad at all!

The only real tough part is how many times/hours you go to the bathroom after drinking all the liquid stuff to make you poo to clean out your system, but you don't feel a thing or even REMEMBER a thing of the procedure itself.  Doesn't even hurt afterwards.  I pinky promise.

And besides the relief you feel when they didn't find anything (or if they did and they found it EARLY so you don't die), the other bad-ass (sorry for the pun) thing I learned was afterwards, your potties are now really great!

I don't really know how to say this, but the cleansing out of your digestive system now makes you VERY regular.  But more so, EVERYTHING comes out every time you go to the bathroom - no delays of your leftovers (even years after the procedure). 

So, you don't get constipated anymore, you don't have to go several times a day to get poo out of your system.  It's really cool!  Honestly, everything goes right through your colon so much more easier now because you cleansed your entire digestive system with all that stupid liquid the night before a colonoscopy.  And this lasts for year, not a few weeks or a month after the procedure - for a few years I found out.

I feel so much better every morning now.  So much so, if I notice a few years down the road I'm getting clogged up in there, I'm going to take all that liquidy mess again to cleanse out my system good.  Guess I should ask my hot doctor before I just do that, tho, huh?  Gives me a reason to call him, lol.

Here is a really funny article about someone who put off a colonoscopy to only find out it was really no big deal, AT ALL.  Check it out here and have some laughs.

Getting Even is Immature

One thing I have learned is that getting even is super immature.

There is a certain "freedom" to NOT getting even with someone, even after they hurt you.

Obviously, I'm talking about hurt from emotions or words.  

As an example, I have seen a few times where a guy makes fun of a girls' weight ONLY because she said something about his weight in the past.  Whether a year went by or just an hour, they are actually "satisfied" and gloat when they get a dig in or were able to be mean back about their weight.

What I find MORE refreshing and a HUGE sign of maturity (and learning) is when a person is hurt or gets hurt and they don't retaliate with the same hurtfulness.

When we hurt someone, most of the time it's not even intentional.  Most of the time it's actually the way someone takes something.  A tone, or misunderstanding, or a miscommunication.  But hardly ever intentional.  So, it makes matters worse when that hurt person "gets you back" by being mean in the same vain.

This quote resonates so much with me about this topic.  Instead of being mean and hurting someone in return, try to understand their situation instead.  Don't retaliate.

When I meet people who try to "get even" or hurt others back, it's time to leave that situation and their negativity.

Mature, thoughtful, positive, smart people just don't do that and they KNOW it's not right.  They know it's not nice.  Instead, we realize that still being considerate even after we are hurt shows the true character of the person we are.  I strongly feel that if a person feels GOOD and even gloats about "getting even" or hurting someone in return, shows a devilish side to them.  And I don't really want to hang out with people like that.

I admit that knowing about this comes with age and experience.  Because as a child it might have felt "good" to get someone back.  But as we get older, it's not even possible from a "decent" person to get even or hurt someone back if they hurt us.  Not even in our being.  Because we know it's not the right thing to do back to someone else.

Yes, we get hurt.  Yes, sometimes very deeply.  But retaliation is not the answer.  That's just simply a sign of immaturity; not yet learning it's really not proper to do.  imho.