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What
does it take to be happy in a relationship? If you’re working to
improve your marriage, here are the 10 habits of happy couples.
1. Go to bed at the same time
Remember the beginning of your relationship, when you couldn’t wait to
go to bed with each other to make love? Happy couples resist the
temptation to go to bed at different times. They go to bed at the same
time, even if one partner wakes up later to do things while their
partner sleeps. And when their skin touches, it still causes each of
them to tingle and — unless one or both are completely exhausted — to
feel sexually excited.
2. Cultivate common interests
After the passion settles down, it’s common to realize that you have
few interests in common. But don’t minimize the importance of activities
you can do together that you both enjoy. If common interests are not
present, happy couples develop them. At the same time, be sure to
cultivate interests of your own; this will make you more interesting to
your mate and prevent you from appearing too dependent.
3. Walk hand-in-hand or side-by-side
Rather than one partner lagging or dragging behind the other, happy
couples walk comfortably hand-in-hand or side-by-side. They know it’s
more important to be with their partner than to see the sights along the
way.
4. Make trust and forgiveness your default mode
If and when they have a disagreement or argument, and if they can’t
resolve it, happy couples default to trusting and forgiving rather than
distrusting and begrudging.
5. Focus more on what your partner does right than what he or she does wrong
If you look for things your partner does wrong, you can always find
something. If you look for what he or she does right, you can always
find something, too. It all depends on what you want to look for. Happy
couples accentuate the positive.
6. Hug each other as soon as you see each other after work
Our skin has a memory of “good touch” (loved), “bad touch” (abused) and
“no touch” (neglected). Couples who say hello with a hug keep their
skin bathed in the “good touch,” which can inoculate your spirit against
anonymity in the world.
7. Say “I love you” and “Have a good day” every morning
This is a great way to buy some patience and tolerance as each partner
sets out each day to battle traffic jams, long lines and other
annoyances.
8. Say “Good night” every night, regardless of how you feel
This tells your partner that, regardless of how upset you are with him
or her, you still want to be in the relationship. It says that what you
and your partner have is bigger than any single upsetting incident.
9. Do a “weather” check during the day
Call your partner at home or at work to see how his or her day is
going. This is a great way to adjust expectations so that you’re more in
sync when you connect after work. For instance, if your partner is
having an awful day, it might be unreasonable to expect him or her to be
enthusiastic about something good that happened to you.
10. Be proud to be seen with your partner
Happy couples are pleased to be seen together and are often in some
kind of affectionate contact — hand on hand or hand on shoulder or knee
or back of neck. They are not showing off but rather just saying that
they belong with each other.
Happy couples have different habits
than unhappy couples. A habit is a discrete behavior that you do
automatically and that takes little effort to maintain. It takes 21 days
of daily repetition of a new behavior to become a habit. So select one
of the behaviors in the list above to do for 21 days and
voila,
it will become a habit… and make you happier as a couple. And if you
fall off the wagon, don’t despair, just apologize to your partner, ask
for their forgiveness and recommit yourself to getting back in the
habit.
If there was one key to happiness in love and life and
possibly even success, it would be to go into each conversation you have
with this commandment to yourself front and foremost in your mind,
"Just Listen" and be more interested than interesting, more fascinated than fascinating and more adoring than adorable.
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