Forgiving

Before I started to write today, I searched my blog and found I had wrote about forgiveness before.

I thought I had.

I don't recall what I was writing about exactly.  I looked at the date.  Dec 2011.  Hmm... what was going on then in my life?  Who had forgiven me, or did I forgive someone else, or did I forgive myself?


Well, I'm the type of person that doesn't forgive very well.  I'm learning this about myself.

Sure, it's suppose to bring you peace.

Well, let me put it to you this way - I don't want to forgive and I don't want to forget the hurt.

So, you may judge me for not forgiving, but I do not forgive liars and I do not forgive cheaters.  And I don't want to be the friends with them.

Life is too short to be friends with people that make you feel like shit.

Men and Women Qualities

I read this article today (sorry, I get a lot of these from posts from Facebook), and it talks about the 12 special qualities that if a woman has, a guy shouldn't let her go.

I think the same list could be said for guys.  Except I would add being taken care of, and feeling like she's on top of his list (or somewhere near the top).

But, those 12 qualities, I wonder if my true love felt them about me?  I feel like I had them all for him.

Stupid thoughts, I know!

Anyhow, here is a short recap of the article:

1. She's smarter than you.
2. She's beautiful (to you).
3. She's kind and nurturing.
4. She's vivacious.
5. She loves you with all her heart.
6. She's willing to make compromises.
7. She feels like home.
8. She is more than happy to tell you when you're wrong.
9. She is strong, but feminine.
10. She's passionate.
11. She's driven.
12. She means the world to you.

What You Can Change - Things to Think About

One of my girlfriends liked this article and I read it and was kinda intrigued by parts of it, but not all of it.  Some related to me, some did not.  But each paragraph might to others, so I thought I would share it.

(btw, I despise the title of the piece, "How To Ruin Your Life (Without Even Noticinig That You Are")

Here are what I think are the main concepts of each paragraph in the article:

1. Your current job and future job
2. Choosing the wrong person
3. Letting your past control your current life
4. Comparing yourself to others
5. Not showing/expressing emotions
6. "You ruin your life by tolerating it."  (okay, that was a quote from the article)

Before New Relationship - Advice

I hadn't talked to one of my friends for a while and I asked him if he was seeing anyone.

His reply was, "no, I'm in self improvement mode."

WOW!

I thought that was really smart and worded so well.

Because we are all kinda suppose to get ourselves together before we get into a new relationship.  I loved this!

Sharing and saving.  :)

6 Secret Phrases Men Crave

I hope these links don't go away.  Just in case, I'll paste the main parts below.

Here is the link:  http://ilovemylsi.com/6-surprising-secret-phrases-men-desperately-crave/

Here are the "6 surprising secret phrases this article says men desperately crave":

1. I'm proud of you.
2. I want you now!
3. I love you.
4. You make me SO happy.
5. You look great.
6. I love how strong you are.

Besides number 6, these are things women love to hear, too!

What You Learn in Your 40s

Cool little article about being in our 40s.  No reason to re-invent these, just copy and paste for ya:

WHAT YOU LEARN IN YOUR 40s:
http://www.nytimes.com/2014/03/01/opinion/sunday/what-you-learn-in-your-40s.html

You will Always Have Bills

My Mom used to always worry and stress over her bills. 

I finally told her one day to stop worrying and stressing.  Why?  Because she will ALWAYS have bills.  She will always have a bill, or something to always pay off.  Always.

No reason to stress over it; just accept it.

Bay St. Louis, August 2014

I went here for work and it was really cool!  Here are pics from parts of the meeting and also of the hotel.  Stayed at the Hollywood Casino in Bay St. Louis, MS:

View from my hotel room

Free breakfast at the meeting

Display of a weather buoy

The golf course at the hotel was a PERFECT avenue to walk and get some exercise, and it was very pretty!

Watch out for gators tho, lol.

They even had a lazy river!  Never knew what that meant til this trip, lol.

Funny name for a pool room lol. 

 Yummm... boiled shrimp!

Lake Powel, November 2013

Lake Powell a beautiful lake, but really a reservoir on the Colorado River, straddling the border between Utah and Arizona.  It is a major vacation spot that around 2 million people visit every year.

I heard about it a lot and went there in November 2013, on our way through the Grand Canyon and Lake Havasu.

Here are some of the pics, that really do not do it justice!  Wish it was warmer - would have loved to have jumped in that water, or got on a boat and fished. 

We only had one day there, or else I would have better pics.  But I was able to see this huge in the lake (pic below) that I kept hearing about and my boyfriend made a cool fire on the beach for me.  Then we tried to watch the sun set, but there were too many clouds.

Here are pics for me to remember my trip:

Sky Lanterns for My Mom

Filled up sky lantern balloons in honor of my Mom who I love, who has passed.

I was at Edgar Evins State Park located on the shores of Center Hill Lake, in beautiful Tennessee.

I cried as we let the balloons go.  It was VERY moving to do this in honor of our Mom's, who we love and miss so very much, so deeply.

Eating Out Alone

I am one of those people that can eat out alone and be just fine with it.

My Mom would always ask me, "How can you do that??"

And another friend said she can't fathom it.

Well, I can eat out alone.  And, I do it all the time.

I don't have roommates or relatives or any friends who live close by, so within an hour of getting off of work, that's when my mind starts wandering about where I could go eat dinner tonight.

I admit I normally sit at the bar or in the bar area.  Why you ask?  Yep, because they have TVs!  It's much easier to sit and watch tv alone, I admit.  But, I'm normally on my phone playing games til the food gets there anyway.

I fully admit though one place that makes me very uncomfortable to eat alone, and that is at my fav hibachi place. 

It's pretty tough to sit at a table made for ten or so people, and you are the only on there sitting all by yourself.  "What, you have no friends?"  I am sure they are thinking. 

I can sit by myself at the bar or in a booth pretty easily - it's made for a small group of people or to dine alone.  But hibachi - there is a big table that is suppose to sit a bunch of people together!

And, hibachi isn't cheap.  So, I don't know too many friends that even crave it like I would. 

But then again, I hardly EVER ask any of my friends to go out to eat.  I don't live close to anyone and I don't like to impose.  And further, I make such last minute decisions to eat somewhere right after work, it's much easier to just go alone.

But hibachi - WOW!

I have gone twice in the last few months and I admit I felt embarrassed.  But, I really love their food and when I am near Japanese Palace in Fort Worth AND I'm craving it, I suck it up an go and sit my little ole' self by myself with a table full of other people.

Does this need to be said.....

One of my friends posted this on Facebook.

It is so powerful, I wanted to share and save it in my blog.

From Tammy:  "This is NOT the first time I will type this quote on my status... NOR will it be the last... The day I heard this.. changed my life... although I had attempted to live like this before.... I have new resolve to abide by this.... anyone that knows me.. knows I pretty well say it like I believe it.... with not much, if any FILTER.. however... I try to be respectful... (sometimes I slip up and when I do... if I realize it.. I certainly try to apologize)"

Craig Ferguson... COMEDIAN....

Does this need to be SAID?
Does this need to be said BY ME?
Does this need to be said by me NOW?

Grand Canyon! November 2013

To avoid Thanksgiving (because we each have lost both our parents), my boyfriend (at the time) and I drove to Las Vegas for an event, and stopped at several amazing places along the way.

Here was one of them:  The Grand Canyon!

I had never been here in my 43 years of life.  It was beautiful and amazing and cannot really be described. You must see it in person!

We were surprised by snow! 

And he also made a campfire for me and then cooked steaks on it.  I made a cute little salad for us.

Click any photos to enlarge.